In Denying Communion at Mother’s Funeral, Priest Contravened the Catechism

A Catholic priest has refused communion to a lesbian, solely because she is a lesbian – at her mother’s funeral. He said to her directly that he did so because she is living with a woman, and that is a sin, according to the church.

Communion Denied to Lesbian Woman at Her Mother’s Funeral « Bondings 2.0.

The blogosphere has been abuzz with the news that Rev. Marcel Guarnizo, a priest at St. John Neumann parish in Gaithersburg, Maryland (Archdiocese of Washington), recently denied communion to a lesbian woman at her mother’s funeral. has posted a summary of various blog posts on the incident, including Ann Werner’s post on, which broke the story.   Werner offers the details:

“My friend Barbara [Johnson], the daughter of the deceased woman, was denied communion at her mother’s funeral. She was the first in line and Fr. Guarnizo covered the bowl containing the host and said to her,  ‘I cannot give you communion because you live with a woman and that is a sin according to the church.’  To add insult to injury, Fr. Guarnizo left the altar when she delivered her eulogy to her mother. When the funeral was finished he informed the funeral director that he could not go to the gravesite to deliver the final blessing because he was sick.”

In claiming to be upholding the Catechism, Fr Guarnizo is displaying woeful ignorance ot it, on at least three counts. First, there is nothing at all in the Catechism against two women simply living together. There is only (alleged) sin if there are “genital acts”. He has not made any such claim to justify his action.

It would also be quite improper to assume that such acts occur, or even if they do, that they are subjectively sinful. We all have an obligation to follow conscience in these (and all other) matters. As the Catechism (1861) reminds us: “We must entrust judgement of persons the justice and mercy of God

Third, there is an equally important part of Catechism teaching, which has been flagrantly ignored:

 “Respect, Compassion, Sensitivity”. Fr Guarnizo has displayed none of these.

There is one tiny smidgeon of good news in here: the Archdiocese of Washington has issued a statement denouncing the incident:

“In a written statement, the Archdiocese of Washington conceded that Father Marcel had acted improperly, saying, ‘Any issues regarding the suitability of an individual to receive communion should be addressed by the priest with that person in a private, pastoral setting.’“Barbara Johnson says she’s satisfied with the statement, though she adds that the damage done, both to her family and to her mother’s memory, could never be repaired.”

This is to be welcomed, but it is not enough. The priest in question must be made to understand that his own actions are in clear contravention of the Catechism, and should publicly apologize. If acting contrary to the Catechism is necessarily sinful, then by his own standards he is himself in sin. The theory of confession states that not only must we repent and confess our sins – but also that for absolution, we must make reparation to those we have injured. The hurt in this case cannot be undone – the least that will suffice is a public apology.

New Ways Ministry suggests writing to Cardinal Wuerl:

These remedies are possible if Catholics contact Cardinal Donald Wuerl, the head of the Archdiocese of Washington. His contact information:

Cardinal Donald Wuerl                                                                                                                                                      Archdiocese of Washington                                                                                                                                                               P.O. Box 29260                                                                                                                                                                        Washington, DC 20017-0260

Tell Cardinal Wuerl that as a Catholic you oppose such blatant discrimination and pastoral incompetence.  Let him know that you consider the action offensive and insensitive.  Explain that you support free and equal access to communion of all Catholics, especially at such a pastorally critical moment as a funeral.  Let him know of your love and support of LGBT people.  Request that he instruct all his priests and pastoral ministers not to repeat such an action.  Call on him to provide pastoral training on LGBT issues for his priests and pastoral ministers. Ask him to call for an apology from Fr. Guarnizo, and to offer pastoral mediation between this priest, Ms. Johnson, and her family.  Speak from your heart and from your faith.

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6 comments for “In Denying Communion at Mother’s Funeral, Priest Contravened the Catechism

  1. Hellen Back
    February 28, 2012 at 4:49 pm

    who want communion fro him anyway? his fingers smell like altar boy ass anyway!

  2. Ray
    March 1, 2012 at 9:55 pm

    glad to see the priest stand up for what is right according to scripture. Can’t be gay and be a Christian. Can’t be straight and commit adultery and/or fornication and be a Christian

    • Bart
      March 2, 2012 at 11:29 am

      I really think you need updating of your so-called Christian beliefs if you seriously think that one can’t be gay and be a Christian. Even with regard to what you say about straight persons who commit adultery and/or fornication. You have oversimplified what it means to BE a Christian. Perhaps you mean to say that this or that person is not living according to certain Christian principles or rules. But then again, I think such hasty judgements do not serve anyone any good. I really hope that God does not judge you (or anyone for that matter) in the way you seem to do. Why have you stopped at only two examples of persons who cannot be Christians? Why not continue the list? Go on, give it a try… you seem to have forgotten those priests who abuse children. And what about politicians sending a country into war? Or corrupt bankers? Perhaps we can widen the group further by including all liars, and then all those who are envious of others, or the gluttonous. You see, I’ve helped you make an even longer list for you to add to those persons you mentioned.

    • March 2, 2012 at 11:44 am

      You also can’t be a Christian and stand in judgement over others.

      You also have a peculiarly dated, limited understanding of what the Bible really says about homoerotic relationships: see

  3. Oraetlaborapermaria
    March 8, 2012 at 3:11 pm

    To Terence Weldon, and Readers,

      You have ‘flagrantly ignored’ a very important teaching of the Catholic Church which is stated just one article back from the above quoted article.  Article 2357 reads: ”

    Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between
    women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward
    persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the
    centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely
    unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts
    as acts of grave depravity,141 tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are
    intrinsically disordered.”142 They are contrary to the natural
    law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed
    from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no
    circumstances can they be approved.”     We are called to love on another and in doing so we don’t let our brothers and sisters walk into the fire.  We do not co-habit with evil, none of the saints did, they faught evil to the last.  This sin is the sin of Sodom and Gomorrah, which called out to Heaven for vengence.   God did not allow those homosexuals to live peacfully there, see what justice was demanded for such actions.

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